Relationship Health Checkup (with Erin Tillman)

Checking in

Erin Tillman, also knows as The Dating Advice Girl, is an inclusive sex educator, dating and consent empowerment coach, author, public speaker, and media personality. She is based out of Los Angeles and has contributed to BuzzFeed, Lifetime, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. For over a decade, Erin has helped empower others through her workshops, podcasting, matchmaking, and the publication of her book, The Consent Guidebook.

Throughout this episode Erin covers a range of topics about relationship health and wellness, including:

1. Navigating boundaries with different partners during Covid:

• How she has continued to see risk management show up in people’s lives from earlier on during the pandemic when couples were confronted with managing risk together with other partners and/or metamours.
• Differences in negotiating boundaries with a new partner as opposed to an existing one.

2. Being a good ally to partners/friends who are black and/or have an identity different from your own:

• How the push and pull between speaking/standing up for oppressed groups while avoiding speaking over those who are oppressed continues to show up in intimate relationships and how we can maybe do it better.

3. Keeping things fun, even during a pandemic:

• Fun recommendations for people to spice up dates or hangouts during this time.
• If it’s even possible to get a good sense of someone during a Zoom first date and how to make those fun.

1. Remember secondary/tertiary/other partners during this pandemic:

• Suggestions for people to keep long-distance relationships connected.
• Platonic relationships versus romantic ones and how similar they are, as well as some advice on keeping in touch with people.

Be sure to listen to the full episode and check out Erin on her social media! She can be found at www.TheDatingAdviceGirl.com, Instagram and Twitter at @DatingAdviceGrl, TikTok at @MissErinTillman, and don’t forget to check out her book, The Consent Guidebook, at www.TheConsentGuidebook.com.