What is compassion fatigue?

Compassion itself is characterized as a sense of shared suffering or a desire to alleviate someone’s suffering, and essentially arises through empathy, often manifesting as someone acting with compassion seeking to aid someone who is suffering. This is not necessarily a bad thing, of course, but when it bleeds over into compassion fatigue, it can become detrimental.

“Compassion fatigue is a state experienced by those helping people or animals in distress; it is an extreme state of tension and preoccupation with the suffering of those being helped to the degree that it can create a secondary traumatic stress for…

Tenets of Stoicism

Stoicism was founded in Greece by Zeno of Cypress and was a Hellenistic philosophy that advocated for the transcendence of one’s passions to accurately assess oneself and the world. According to the Stoics, emotions and pleasure-seeking caused disruptions in the soul and that stoic enlightenment amounted to achieving complete disinterest in and indifference to pain, joy, love, hope, fear, etc.

In essence, Stoics believed that when you pulled back from looking at yourself in first person to a more “birds-eye-view” of third person and beyond, you could start to see your own interconnectedness to the people and things around…

Generations versus age

Although age and generation aren’t interchangeable terms, they do correspond with each other to an extent.

Gen Z generation is classified as those born between 1997 and 2012/2015.

Millenials are those born between 1981 and 1995 and are:

  • More inclined to use technology to find romantic or sexual partners.
  • More likely to report being comfortable with pre-marital sex than earlier generations, but also having less sex than previous generations did at their age.
  • More likely to live with a partner outside of marriage, often for longer terms with no plans of marriage, which is uncommon in older generations.
  • More…

What is toxic positivity?

“Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset.”

-Verywell Mind

“We define toxic positivity as the excessive and ineffective overgeneralization of a happy, optimistic state across all situations. The process of toxic positivity results in the denial, minimization, and invalidation of the authentic human emotional experience.”


Being positive is generally a good thing, but sometimes it can overflow into toxic positivity. …

Change is stressful

Even when the change that is happening is good, our brains don’t like it most of the time. Some big life changes can be exciting and positive, but navigating them with a partner or partners can sometimes be challenging. Change can have physical and mental effects on you, and this episode discusses them as well as some ways to minimize the negative ones.

All brains are different, so the way we react to change is different as well. Some big life changes that our brains may perceive as stressful could be:

  • Moving to a new place.
  • Moving into a…

All by myself

Learning to date yourself is something it can take years. The idea of spending time alone can be scary for many of us, but today we’re going to go over some tips and tricks to help maximize the positive impact of your alone time.

Why are these skills important?

  1. Sometimes you will be alone (due to the pandemic, your partner being on a date, etc.).
  2. Although no one wants to be completely isolated, there is a long history of humans needing some time alone.
  3. It’s good for you. Adequate alone time is linked to:
  • Increased memory and concentration.
  • Greater empathy for people different from…

Three plus one makes four

Originally, there were three trauma responses, fight, flight, and freeze, which occur based on the brain’s limbic system, which is the part of the brain wired to go into survival mode when faced with danger in the wild, like being attacked by a bear. Now, fawn has been added, or the idea of the appeaser or people-pleaser.


A fight response might look like picking up a weapon to fight off the attacking bear, for example. …

Defining jealousy

Typically envy and jealousy are used interchangeably, even though envy is characterized by wanting something someone else has, and jealousy is more focused on a fear of losing something or being left out. For this episode, we’re strictly talking about jealousy, because it’s often the thing that people have more of a hard time getting past.

One way of describing jealousy that often comes up in scientific papers is “an agitated and angry form of worry.”

Curvilineal model

The curvilineal model of jealousy looks at it as being most common in situations where there is a higher investment in conjunction with…

Season 2 is here!

It’s been four years since Jackie Stone, creator of the web series Compersion, has been on our show, but she’s finally back, and with season 2 nonetheless! This week we were joined by Jackie and four of the cast members, Jammie, Derrick, Loren, and Ka, to talk about season 2, what has changed since the beginning of the show, how polyamory and diversity has changed in the media, and the future of the show.

The four actors give their perspectives on:

  1. Their first impression when being cast for the show.
  2. If they have had any difficulty sharing the show’s…

What is psychological flexibility?

Psychological flexibility is the ability to stay in contact with the present moment, regardless of unpleasant thoughts and feelings, and choosing behavior based on the situation and personal values. The term originates from an analysis done by Todd Kashdan and Jonathan Rotterburg that was published in Clinical Psychology Review in 2010.

They defined four different main measures of psychological flexibility:

  1. How much someone is able to adapt to fluctuating situational demands;
  2. Reconfigure their mental resources;
  3. Shift their perspective, and;
  4. Balance competing desires, needs, and life domains.

They discovered that those who were the most able to access these skills…


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